Couples Counseling
Are you feeling lonely, unheard, and unappreciated in your relationship?
Do you feel angry, defensive, misunderstood, and shut out?
Do you feel that you and your partner are having the same argument over and over again?
Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells and every conversation may explode into another painful disagreement?
Has there been an emotional, physical, or financial breach of trust?
Do you feel that your partner doesn’t know you anymore?
When your relationship is in trouble, life can feel out of control.
You may feel overwhelmed with anger, fear, and sadness. You and your partner may turn away from each other because you are in conflict and in pain. Conflict can make you feel lonely, that you and your partner are not on the same page, and that they don’t have your back.
And yet, research shows that practically all couples experience conflict. It’s normal. Learning how to navigate conflicts effectively is essential for a strong and healthy relationship.
I work with couples as they resolve their areas of conflict. I help guide them as they develop skills to more lovingly express their feelings and needs and to better understand themselves and their partner. I also support couples as they repair the painful parts of their relationship to rekindle their sense of connection and intimacy.
What Should I Expect in Couples Counseling?
In couples counseling, I offer practical tools and strategies to help you:
Manage conflict
Communicate and listen effectively
Rebuild trust and commitment
Find greater understanding of yourself and your partner
Rekindle love and friendship
Create a life with shared meaning and purpose
I use the Gottman method of couples counseling to structure our work together. The Gottman couples therapy method is based on John Gottman’s four decades of research with thousands of couples. You may know him for his research in the “Love Lab” where couples were invited to spend time together in a small apartment while Gottman and his colleagues observed and documented what makes relationships work and what makes them fail.
Being in relationship can be hard work. Really hard work. I can help make that work a little easier and guide you and your partner toward healing, rebuilding your trust and commitment, and creating a relationship of greater love and intimacy.